Step 4: The Repair Offering
📋 What it is
A repair offering is a genuine way to make things right — an apology, a change, or a kind action that fits the hurt.
🗣️ Coach says
After owning it and naming the impact, you OFFER repair: a sincere apology, a plan to do better, or a helpful action. It should fit the hurt (a big rupture needs more than "my bad"). The offering isn’t about erasing what happened — it’s about showing you’re invested in the relationship.
🧠 Memory hook
Offer a genuine repair that FITS the hurt: a real apology + what you’ll do differently.
😂 Giggle
Why did seeing it from their side help?
Because perspective-taking turns "you're wrong" into "oh, I get why you're upset"!
😲 Whoa!
The strongest repair offerings include a FUTURE promise ("here’s what I’ll do differently") — it shows the change is real.
✅ Quick check: What makes a repair offering genuine?
Say your answer out loud first — then reveal.
It fits the size of the hurt and includes what you’ll actually do differently — not just "my bad".
A real offering matches the harm and shows future change, not a quick brush-off.
🧪 Try it! (2 minutes)
For a made-up rupture, write a repair offering with two parts: a sincere sorry + one thing you’ll change.