Accountability
📋 What it is
Accountability is owning your part fully — without shame, and without over-owning things that weren’t yours.
🗣️ Coach says
Accountability sits in the middle: not dodging your part ("it wasn’t me"), and not swallowing blame that isn’t yours ("everything is my fault"). It’s a clear, honest "here’s the part that WAS mine." That balance is brave — and it keeps repair fair for everyone, including you.
🧠 Memory hook
Own YOUR part — all of it, none of what isn’t yours. Not dodging, not over-blaming. Brave and fair.
😂 Giggle
Why did the friendship get STRONGER after the repair?
Because working through a conflict can build more trust than never fighting at all!
😲 Whoa!
Owning a mistake actually raises how much others respect and trust you — accountability reads as strength, not weakness.
✅ Quick check: What does healthy accountability look like?
Say your answer out loud first — then reveal.
Owning exactly your part — without dodging it and without taking blame that isn’t yours.
Accountability is a fair, shame-free ownership of your share.
🪄 Trick question: Is taking the blame for EVERYTHING the most responsible thing to do?
Careful — think it through, then reveal.
No — over-owning what wasn’t yours isn’t healthy; own your true part, fairly.
Accountability is accurate ownership, not swallowing all blame.
🧪 Try it! (2 minutes)
For a made-up conflict, write "my part was ___" and "not my part was ___." Keep them separate and fair.