When You Are Hurt
📋 What it is
Repair also has a receiving side — naming YOUR hurt calmly and letting a genuine repair land.
🗣️ Coach says
Sometimes you’re the one who was hurt. Then repair means naming your feelings honestly ("that hurt because ___") instead of bottling it up or lashing out — and, when someone offers a real repair, letting it in rather than holding the grudge as armour. Receiving repair is its own brave skill.
🧠 Memory hook
Hurt? Name it calmly ("that hurt because ___") and let a REAL repair land — don’t armour up with a grudge.
😂 Giggle
Why did asking "what do you need?" work so well?
Because sometimes the best repair is finding out what would actually help!
😲 Whoa!
Holding a grudge raises YOUR stress the most — forgiveness, when it’s earned, is largely a gift to yourself.
✅ Quick check: When someone offers you a sincere repair, what’s the brave move?
Say your answer out loud first — then reveal.
Name your hurt honestly and let the genuine repair land instead of clinging to the grudge.
Receiving repair well — not bottling up or armouring — is its own repair skill.
🧪 Try it! (2 minutes)
Practice the sentence "that hurt because ___" for a small made-up situation — calm and clear.