Boundaries & Safety
📋 What it is
Not every rupture should be repaired the same way — boundaries and safety come first, and some situations need a trusted adult.
🗣️ Coach says
Repair is for ordinary hurts between people who both want the relationship. But if someone repeatedly hurts you, won’t stop, or it isn’t safe, the healthy move is a BOUNDARY — and telling a trusted adult. "I can repair anything" is not true, and it’s not your job to fix unsafe situations alone. Knowing the limit protects you.
🧠 Memory hook
Repair is for ordinary hurts. If it’s unsafe or repeated, set a BOUNDARY and tell a trusted adult.
😂 Giggle
Why is it okay to need a break mid-argument?
Because "can we pause and finish this later?" is a repair skill, not a defeat!
😲 Whoa!
Real strength includes knowing when NOT to keep trying to fix a relationship yourself — and when to ask for help.
✅ Quick check: Someone keeps hurting you and won’t stop. Is more repair the answer?
Say your answer out loud first — then reveal.
No — set a boundary and tell a trusted adult; repair isn’t for unsafe or repeated harm.
Boundaries and safety come before repair; some situations need adult help.
🧪 Try it! (2 minutes)
Name one trusted adult you could talk to if a rupture ever felt unsafe. Just knowing who helps.