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The repair loop

Five steps, always in order. This is the whole skill — everything else is practice for it.

1 · 👀 Notice the harm → 2 · 🤲 Own your part → 3 · 💗 Name the impact → 4 · 🌿 Offer a repair → 5 · 💛 Reconnect

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The Repair Loop A real rupture happens — walk all five steps in order to mend it, choosing the move that fits each step. This is the core of the whole app.

Read the Signals No words this time — just body language. A friend goes quiet, their shoulders drop, they turn away. Read what their body is telling you.

Fact or Story When someone hurts us, our mind adds a story fast. Practice pulling the plain fact out from the story you told yourself, so you can mend the real thing.

Quiet Check-in A private moment: bring a real rupture to mind, notice which step feels hardest for you, and check in with how your body feels. Nothing here is scored or saved.

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Practice repair

The Repair Loop Walk all five steps in order to mend a real rupture — the core of the whole app. Read the Signals Read a friend’s body language — noticing a feeling is the first step of every repair. Fact or Story Pull the plain fact out from the story your mind added, so you can mend the real thing. Quiet Check-in A private moment to notice which step feels hardest and check in with your body. Nothing scored or saved.

Learn & practice

Learn the skills 16 gentle kits about repair — ruptures, the five steps, listening, empathy, boundaries — a hint whenever you get stuck. Mixed practice A short round shuffling questions from the kits you have played — spaced so it sticks. Trick Questions Brain-teasers with a twist — spot why the obvious answer is a trap.

Learn the skills — 16 gentle kits

Gentle multiple-choice rounds about the ideas behind repair — what a rupture is, why they're normal, each of the five steps, plus listening, empathy, boundaries, forgiving yourself, and a capstone. Every answer is treated kindly, a hint appears whenever you get stuck, and nothing you feel is saved anywhere but this device.